Have you ever attempted to change a habit or get into a new routine because you felt stuck and bored? You go to change it, you make a plan, and you have the best intentions and then BOOM! you fall back into your old routine and nothing changes. I sure have been there – done that!
Why is change so hard to stick with? How can you make it through, because after all, you know how much better, greater your life could be if you made those changes, right?
Here’s a little insight…
You may have heard that it takes 21 days to change a habit. But often this is easier said than done.
There is scientific research that proves that we humans experience resilience to change. Yes that’s right, it’s a natural occurrence! It’s not that you haven’t got the willpower or the intention to change, sticking with your old habits and way of life gives you a feeling of safety and comfort.
These feelings happen because your body is used to receiving too much of those stress related hormones such as Cortisol. When you create change your body craves this hormone and goes into a tail spin, seeking ways to regain that feeling of comfort and security and generally wreaking havoc.
The good news…
Your body is a sophisticated machine. It recognizes when you are in the midst of change and chaos and begins releasing hormones such as Dopamine and Serotonin which are known as ‘the happy chemicals’.
These two beauties go into bat for you, they support you and help you feel motivated and energized, but only when they get the chance to work their magic.
In a perfect world, you’d be able to control all of the environmental factors that are waiting to steer you off track, which is why doing a little prep work can save your bacon.
Below are the 5 steps that I use when I’m approaching change in my life, big or small:
- Know your purpose. What are you here to do? Does this change align with your purpose? Make it authentic and make it about you.
- Write it down. Nothing sets an intention more so than visual proof. If writing isn’t your thing, create an inspiration board or some other tool that will help you stay focused.
- Make it public! Share your plans with your partner, family, or friends. Find an online community, a mentor or even hire a coach. HINT: Don’t get discouraged by those negative, down-talkers that all of us have in our circle, know that whatever their views it is a reflection of their fears not yours.
- Prepare for temptation! Before you start the change, think of all the things that could interfere and seduce you into failure. Be specific and come up with solutions how to deal with them before they happen.
- Be gentle with yourself – acknowledge the physical and biological consequences going on and respect them. If you experience setbacks, take a moment and then take another step…keep going forward!
Knowing and understanding what is happening on the inside is the key to keeping the momentum going when change gets uncomfortable. You have the power to choose who you are and what you do every day. Be the change that makes you so unique and I guarantee that you won’t be the only one that reaps the rewards.