I’ve got a friend, she’s kind, considerate, smart, gorgeous and she has loads of energy. I first met her about 3 years ago when I was at my wits end. We’re not in constant contact but when we do catch up it’s like it was yesterday. You know the type of friend; each time you meet it’s like no time has passed and you take up where you left off.
This week I received a message from her…it went along the lines of “what the hell are you doing with your Facebook page banner, every time I go to your page you’ve got something different on there and it’s confusing!” She signed off with “Sorry if this is negative, it’s really just some feedback because I love what you are and what you do”.
I laughed and sent her a big thank you note. To be honest I didn’t think anyone even took any notice of my Facebook banner…no one else had said anything. But I was very grateful that she’d spoken up and it made me realise that I was probably confusing the hell out of everyone, not just her!
Constant critiquing and feedback are now the norm for me and I pay good money for it. My business coach is particularly good at putting my BS to the side and focusing on the real issue. I love it and have grown more comfortable with the advice, feedback and critiquing I receive.
It wasn’t always like this though, I never asked for feedback or help, because I took it as a direct hit…in the self-esteem. I thought people were telling me I wasn’t good enough and when you’re a self-confessed DIY Junkie who just wants to feel good about yourself…it’s not the easiest thing in the world to get your head around.
Thankfully, I can now see how beneficial it is to have the input from my network, my tribe, and people who have my best interests at heart. It doesn’t mean that you have to take everything they say and implement it, it just means you get a different perspective. You get the opportunity to get outside of your own head and see things through someone else’s eyeballs.
Asking for help is a sign of confidence. Confidence comes from knowing that when you ask for advice or help whatever someone says, it’s not about you! It’s their opinions, their ideas, and their experiences all rolled into a healthy ball of best intentions.
I’d love to hear what about your experiences when you’ve asked for help. Tell me about it in the comments below…