Here’s a shocking statistic for you 92% of New Year’s resolutions fail. Apologies if you’ve just made your list of resolutions for 2015, this may not feel like very good news to you right now!
According to the Oxford Dictionary, the definition of resolution is ‘a firm decision to do or not to do something’. Sounds fairly straightforward although it may make you question the above statistic. That statistic should read 100% of resolutions are a success because regardless of the outcome you have achieved it, you’ve made a firm decision to do or not to do something.
My intention here is not to have you put your dreams and desires on hold or on the back burner because the chances of achieving them are slim, instead my intention is to help you to understand that there is a way to achieve all that you want and more but it starts with a different question. Forget about how many kg’s you want to lose or how many glasses of wine you’re going to limit yourself to each week and instead start with ‘WHO DO I WANT TO BE?’.
Deciding Who You Want To Be and aligning that with your goals is fundamental to success.
Hmmm, have I got you thinking yet?
It’s the WHY that Simon Sinek speaks of in his TedTalk and even though he refers to business and leadership it can be applied to all parts of your life. Aligning your goals, resolutions, results, desires with Who You Want To Be is your guarantee to achieve what you set out to achieve…or something better.
Simple isn’t it.
- Ditch the resolutions.
- Start with a different question ‘Who Do I Want To Be?’
- Align your goals to the answer
- Rinse and Repeat
Do you need proof that this works? Here’s a real-life example:
Debbie had been struggling to lose the extra weight she’d gained over the last 5 years. Her relationship with her husband was tired and so was she. What she really wanted was to have the confidence that she once had rather than taking a back seat in life but she didn’t where to start. She’d set goals around losing weight but each time she’d slip back into familiar habits and end up worse off than when she started.
When I first met Debbie she was quick to confess that her look wasn’t up to scratch. She’d avoided buying clothes because she was intending on losing weight and she didn’t want to waste money on things she would only get to wear a couple of times. Chaaaa…Ching!! As soon as I heard this I gave Debbie some quick-fire advice ‘Dress the body you have today and cut the bullshit excuses for not showing up in all your glory. If you don’t respect yourself, why would anyone else.’
Harsh as it sounds, it was the fire that lit Debbie’s desire to really get clear on WHO SHE WANTED TO BE and align her dreams, desires and goals to that.
Within two months she had lost weight, her relationship with her husband had improved and their intimate relationship had…well let’s just say it had reached new heights and her new found confidence has helped her pursue her dream of starting a business.
Simple isn’t it.
So why not use this time as we enter into an exciting new year to commit to Who We Want to Be together. I’d love to hear your commitment to yourself in the comments below….