Did you know that your personality determines how you shop? Did you also know that your personality and style are intricately intertwined and are a reflection of one another? When they are out of sync, shopping for clothes is not only challenging, it can have a negative impact on your budget.
Over the past 10 years I have explored the inner world of women’s wardrobes. It’s always a privilege to be granted access to this space that is alive with stories of the past, historical events, memories, secrets, treasures and guilt.
Wardrobes are fascinating places to explore for someone like me. There is nothing that I love more than to find out who I’m really dealing with. It’s no wonder then that detoxing a wardrobe can be a very emotional journey.
One thing I experience most often, is the overwhelming number of women who feel guilt when they start to pull out clothes, shoes and accessories that they’ve never worn. It breaks my heart. Not because they’ve bought something that they’ve never worn, we’ve all done that, it’s more that they have these things in their wardrobes and are embarrassed and ashamed because they got it wrong.
To them it is a reflection of their worthiness, they’re guilty little secrets that are kept hidden in the back of the wardrobe.
We are emotional creatures so it makes sense that if our emotions are driving our purchasing choices that we’ll make decisions that aren’t great for us. If it’s happening more often than not, then I’d suggest that you really get clear on what’s important to you when it comes to getting dressed each day.
First things first. Take out everything that you’ve never worn and either give it away or sell it. You’ll free up your energy and ditch those feelings of guilt.
Secondly decide what personality type you are when it comes to shopping, here are some examples:
- Social Shopper – you love to shop with others, it’s an excuse to get together
- Bargain Hunter Shopper – you’ll only buy on sale
- Comfort Shopper – you are unable to decide on what suits you without the others telling you what looks good
- Emotional Shopper – you shop to feel good
Thirdly here’s a few ideas to make shopping so much better for you, your money and your time:
- Make a list of things you need to complete your wardrobe (include number, size, and colour)
- Decide on your budget (will you buy all at once or over a period of time?)
- When you head to the shops make sure you wear clothes that you can take off and put on easily (you’ll be trying things on)
- Take your shopping list and give it to the shop assistant and ask them to get the things they have available in store (they know better than you what is in their shop and on the racks)
- Try everything on because you will need to determine if it fits, is the right colour, feels amazing and you love it
- If it doesn’t meet any of the criteria in #5, leave it. Rely on no one else’s opinion except your own.
- If you do get it home and put it on and it doesn’t feel right, leave it for a day or two and try it again.
- If it still doesn’t feel right, take it back to the shop and get your money back (if you don’t feel comfortable doing this, find someone who does)
If all this trying on in a change room doesn’t spin your wheels, online shopping might be your thing, just make sure the online retailer has a good return policy.
Want to share your shopping style with me? Leave me a comment below.