This past week I have been talking to women around the region about finding space to breathe. Although I’m often met with quizzical looks, I persevere. I believe that without making space to breathe we may just suffocate ourselves.
I know taking time out to do something where the sole focus is on you, can be difficult. It’s not our usual mode of operation. We’re naturally wired to put the needs of others first which is why it can be awkward when it comes to setting aside time for a little self-care.
I’ve explored this topic endlessly, discussed the pros and cons with women, and heard all the excuses under the sun to justify why now, just isn’t the right time.
I’m disturbed by this. By our world. By convenience. By running on empty.
As women, we are at high risk of the physical and mental manifestations of not taking care of ourselves.
I’m an over-worker by nature. I was conditioned to believe that I had to work hard…really hard…otherwise people would think I was lazy. However, a few short years ago I got to experience what really happens when you push the boat out. Not only does your luxury liner sail away but the replacement vessel has holes in it and is missing the oars!
I remember vividly endless doctors’ appointments, tests and hospital visits. While I had nothing specifically wrong with me, I did have a series of things. Shitty things that I’d never had before. I recall a particularly interesting time when I went into shock after a minor procedure and my heart rate dropped to the point where the medical team were called in to inject me with something to bring me back from the edge.
As I lay there wondering if this was it (slightly dramatic, but there was a peacefulness about falling into unconsciousness) I wondered why my cervix had taken such exception to the surgeon and their instruments. It was the most incredible protest I have witnessed. Good for you cervix!!!
It’s not often my cervix gets a mention when I’m writing an article, however I wanted to get your attention and use this example to help you see the importance of making space for yourself.
It wasn’t that I was unwell, it was that my entire system was struggling to keep up with the pressure I was putting on it. Pressure that was all my own doing and ultimately my own undoing.
You know what, life isn’t meant to be a constant uphill battle. Life is meant to be joyful, fun and filled with experiences that allow you to stop and smell the roses. As corny as that sounds…it’s true and it’s necessary if you ever hope to fully participate with all your bits still intact, not to mention being the kind of person that others want to be around. A lack of self-care can certainly make you a miserable so and so.
So for now, without hesitation, take some time and make some space for you. No justification required. Give yourself permission to enjoy this very incredible life you’ve been handed.
How to Make Space….
Close your eyes.
Fill your lungs with air.
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